Dear May…

How can I get over my ex?

I am going to start off by saying that there is no right or wrong way to get over your ex. However, the one thing I can tell you is that the worst thing you can do is ignore your feelings. This goes for anyone in any type of relationship. When you lose someone, it can feel like you lost a big part of your life. It is important that you let yourself feel because that is the only way you will be able to let yourself move on and accept that they are no longer a part of your life. It can be hard and sad, but that’s completely okay. It’s normal to be mad or sad or maybe feel just a bit empty, but what is also super important to remember is that you have so many people that surround you, care about you, and can help you through this period. In the end, you will be okay, and I promise that no matter how you feel right now, it does get better. Find closure for yourself (whatever that looks like for you), and then keep on going. I’m right by your side.

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THEY HATE YOU BUT YOU LIKE THEM?

AHHHHH WHAT TO DO. Okay first I have some questions, but also some advice. Do they really hate you, and if so, how do you know? If you talk to them then, they probably don’t really hate you. Now call me delusional, but I believe this can work in your favor. First, you want to talk to them, like actually talk to them. See if you two have anything in common and ask them if they think there is any way you two can get along. (Don’t take no for an answer.) Hypothetically, this will now lead you to the beginning of a friendship. Don’t be weird about it: just be their friend. Get comfortable enough with them, and this is the time you can make sure you actually like them and don’t just think that they are attractive. If you do, then tell them. I promise: the worst thing they can say is that they don’t like you back. It may seem like the end of the world, but it isn’t. I swear. (PS – If they don’t have a Valentine, then you have the perfect way to let them know you like them.)

What do you do if a friend knows who you have a crush on but still gets close with them?

The first and most important thing I advise you to do is talk to your friend. As I’ve said before and will continue to say forever: communication is the most important thing in any type of relationship. Let your friend know how you feel, and tell them that getting close with the person you like makes you feel a certain way. A good friend will have a good reason for why they are getting close with them, but they also might not even realize that it makes you uncomfortable. It is so important to talk about it because they might not even realize they are doing something that affects you negatively. Now, if you know that your friend is only getting closer with the person you like to get a reaction out of you, they are not a friend. No one should do anything to intentionally hurt you or make you uncomfortable. If this is the case, then it would be a good idea to distance yourself from them and let them know why. Also, Valentine’s Day is coming up! Go get your crush, ask them to be your Valentine. Worst they can say is no, so just do it.

How do you tell your ex that you like him again?

First ask yourself this— is it a good idea to get back with your ex? Your ex is your ex for a reason, and I know you can find those “harsh truth” TikToks out there, so make sure that you possibly getting back into a relationship with them isn’t a bad idea. If you and your ex talk regularly, then my advice would be to just say it. Make sure that they know you don’t want to ruin the relationship that you two have right now, but you still have those feelings for them and would like to give it a second shot. If you don’t talk to your ex regularly, then I suggest you start a conversation to catch up and let them know that you’re not still over it. In either case, if there isn’t a relationship coming out of the conversations, you can still have closure so that you can move on. If your ex does not feel the same, remember that it has nothing to do with you but that’s just a sign to keep on moving. It is better to get things off your chest and not wonder about the “what ifs.” I say just tell him girl, yolo. If it doesn’t work out then that’s okay and if it does CONGRATS. Keep me updated and good luck!

I really like this guy, but he’s been giving off ridiculously mixed signals. His last relationship was toxic and ended pretty badly, and I think it really messed with how he sees love. He shows all the signs of liking me back, but is pretty shy, and seems to be waiting for ME to make the first move. How can I confess to him without possibly embarrassing myself?

Starting off with this sounds like a good guy and luckily for you it’s VALENTINES DAY COMING UP!!! I am sorry that he had a not-so-good last relationship, and you’re right: that could have messed with how he sees love. However, you are not the girl that he was dating before, meaning that you can give him a whole new view on love and what it’s like to have a good, healthy relationship. So we all know that he likes you, so you have nothing to worry about. I know that it can be scary to make the first move but it can also be so worth it. My advice would be to have a talk with him that goes something like this: “Hey, so if it wasn’t clear already, I do have a crush on you. (Wait for his response.) I know that your last relationship wasn’t good for you, and I don’t want to rush you or pressure you into anything, but I would like to give this a shot. (Wait for his response.) We can take it slow, maybe start off with you being my Valentine?” Go for it girl. I have high hopes for you and I am excited to see how it goes. Make sure that you two are on the same page and you offer him reassurance and time to take things slow. Show him how much you like him. GOOD LUCKKKK!!!

Why did my boyfriend become a horrible person right before Valentine’s Day?

From what I can gather, it seems like you and your boyfriend haven’t been on the same page recently and haven’t really been getting along. First thing I am going to say is that relationships aren’t always easy. There will be times where you don’t get along, don’t want to talk, and even get bored, and that is completely normal. A relationship will not always be all good and exciting. First, you should consider what you mean by “horrible,” what are his actions telling you, and is there something you can do to fix or change the way that it’s affecting the relationship. Second, make sure that you two are communicating with each other well so that the issues coming up can be resolved. And lastly, it is important to know that sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to. It is important to be realistic and make sure that the decisions you make won’t put you in a bad spot mentally. If the relationship is not doing any good for anyone, then it would be important to consider not being in one. It’s okay to move on and move forward from the relationship if that’s what the situation is calling for.

How do I get a boyfriend?

If you see a guy shopping with his grandma, he is probably a keeper, so pick him. Okay I am serious now. The only advice I really have is, don’t go looking for one. I find it that the harder you look for one, the harder they are to find. Let things come naturally: if you find someone attractive, don’t be afraid to let them know. It is important to be extroverted too; put yourself out there and don’t be afraid to talk to anyone. Showing people who you are will attract good people around you, which can lead to you finding someone who is good for you. Don’t go crazy looking for someone: make sure to take your time and take it slow because you have all the time in the world. You will find someone when it’s right and when you do you’ll know. Good luck! (If you find someone attractive before/on Valentine’s Day, ask them to be your Valentine. Worst they can say is no, so YOLO.)